Mother's guilt ?????

Being a mom means having to balance between your own needs of space and that of your kids.So there are times when I feel the need to go and get a pedicure done(big feel good factor!!!) but maybe that particular day Chhotu will get clingy and cranky for no reason and I can't leave him at all inspite of what others tell me.mother's guilt ??

Then there are times when Cheenu who is otherwise such a fine natured boy ..always well behaved and all but after all he is a toddler , gets irritable too. I sometimes get a little angry and don't give into his demands.the result...he ends up crying and if he sleeps on his own without talking to me after that incident... I feel awful !!! I know discipline is necessary too but somehow I can't wait for him to get up and hug me again. Mother's guilt ????

But then has anyone ever heard of "father's guilt "??infact does it even exist .. I know of hundreds of instances of working moms who have mother's guilt when their kids are unwell at home and they have that important meeting at work. They say they just can't focus at work with their minds at home all along .but ever heard a dad complain of the same??

So there are different reasons for "mothers guilt" and it does exist..yes!! Very much !! In obsessive compulsive moms a lot more than others I think :-)) but there's no escaping this... Accept it or not !!